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11 Amazing Tips To Make Your Child More Independent

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Why Should Kids Learn to Be More Independent?

Your child might be too young right now, but eventually, he/she will grow up to be a fully functioning adult. Learning a few life skills early in life can prepare him/her to handle the demands of adulthood.
 
Children take a while to understand the concept of choices and making a decision that they think is best for them. By introducing choices early in their life, children can start knowing themselves better and understand what truly makes them happy.
 
Life isn’t all happiness and enjoyment all around. There will be moments when your child might fail to do what was expected of him. But if he is independent, he will recognise his mistakes, come to you for support, and be open to guidance in performing better.
 
Books contain information but knowledge is gleaned only through actions. The difference between warning your child about the danger and your little one actually facing it is a huge one. Being independent allows your child to start learning things by himself, take risks, and be better informed as a person.
How to Teach Your Child to Be Independent?
 
There are numerous ways to train your child to be independent and still enjoy the childhood the way he deserves.
 
1. Give Responsibilities They Can Handle
 
Your child does not need to start handling the finances of the house and make big decisions. Independence needs to begin from the self and that is where you can help your child. If you are planning a picnic and need your child to help you out with it, give him simple tasks such as making a list of items you might need or going ahead and packing his own bag for a short weekend trip you might be taking.
 
2. Avoid Hand-Holding Your Child
 
Many parents confuse guidance with hand-holding and constantly intervene in the child’s actions if she is doing something wrong or is taking longer than needed. When your child is young, it is good to guide your child with some instructions or open-ended suggestions that inform them of the possibility that the task can be completed in an easier way. But as they grows up, let them come to you if they needs help, rather than intervening needlessly.
 
3. Introduce Choices With Limited Options
 
 
Asking your child what they would like to eat at a restaurant can get quite overwhelming for them since the restaurant menu is quite expansive. Instead, pick a bunch of options from the menu and ask them to choose from the selected options. Starting off with a limited array can help them make a choice easily and prepare them for newer ones.
 
4. Let Your Child Make His Own Decisions At Times
 
You might prefer to have your child do their homework before they goes out to play. But they might prefer playing first then completing their homework. Allow your child some degree of freedom in smaller aspects, such as choosing what to wear or what snack to eat in the evening. And as long as they do what is promised, you shouldn’t have a problem.
 
 
5. Have Empathy Towards Your Child
 
Your child is just learning to be independent, so it won’t be easy for them. Avoid scolding them or putting them down, even if they fails to do something that is quite simple. Be there to support them and help them out if they asks for it, without judging they.
 
6. Don’t Make Failures a Big Issue
 
There will be times when your child might fail at something, and obviously, they will be disappointed. Comfort them and let them know that it’s okay to fail. Teach them to learn from those failures, get up and try again. He might even repeat them despite your warnings. It’s okay, let them learn from their mistakes. Do let your child know what they could have done better, but don’t connect the failure with them. This can hamper their self-esteem tremendously.
 
7. Teach Your Child to Solve Problems Independently
 
Be it school-related problems or any issues they might have with siblings or friends, let your child know that certain problems have to be resolved by them and you can’t help them with those. Guide them if needed by providing them with a different perspective of the situation.
 
8. Establish a Proper Routine
 
Children can have trouble making decisions for themselves if they don’t think sequentially. This can be easily handled by establishing a fixed routine for them. Once your kid knows what needs to be done on a particular day and at a particular time, they will start doing it all by themself.
 
9. Teach Negotiation
 
Many children tend to start viewing the world as a win and lose proposition. Open up your child to the world of compromise and negotiation and they will start understanding to make the best of the situation that is presented before them. They can either choose the picnic location or the picnic lunch but they cannot do both. This will help them prioritise their own preferences, too.
 
10. Don’t Forget to Encourage
 
When your child does the things they promised in the right way and all by themself, don’t hesitate to tell them how proud they makes you. Positive feedback is essential in shaping your child’s personality the right way and the validation of parents goes a long way in that regard.
 
11. Involve Them in Authentic Household Tasks
Try to encourage your child to take on small tasks like cleaning up toys after playtime, helping put away groceries, and picking up their room. Make sure you are giving them chores that are age-appropriate and necessary. Kids are much more willing to help out when they feel they contribute to the household authentically.
 
There’s quite a difference between making toddlers independent and teaching them to do certain activities by themselves. But once your child gets used to the environment at school, you can ask them to do the simple activities by themselves. These can slowly sow the seeds of independence in them.

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